Reactions of Others Part 1: Shock and Awe
I once did a presentation at the IFGE (International Foundation for Gender Education) conference in Washington, D.C. called “Ignorance, Questions, and Fears, Oh My!: Surviving the Reactions of...
View ArticleReactions of Others Part 2: They Just Don’t “Get It”
In the years I’ve been doing gender therapy, I’ve come to realize a simple fact about the general population and their understanding of transgender individuals: some get it, and some don’t. I don’t...
View ArticleIT: My thoughts on what being transgender is all about
In all this talk about “getting it”, I realized I haven’t defined “it”. I haven’t said what it is exactly I’d like others to “get”. I have been referring people to my blog as a means of helping them...
View ArticleReactions of Others Part 3: Your Alignment; Their Transition
I’ve talked a lot in this blog about the process of discovery transgender people go through and how there are often two major parts: realizing one is transgender (has the gender identity of something...
View ArticleReactions of Others Part 4: F-f-f-fear
Although I’m sure I’ll blog plenty more about coming out and coping with responses, this is the final installment in my recent four-part series “Reactions of Others”. In this blog I’m addressing the F...
View ArticleWhat’s In YOUR Pants?? (They’re called “privates” for a reason)
When a person reveals their transgender identity and plans to transition, one of the first questions they are often faced with has to do with their anatomy, or genitalia. If you have been one of those...
View ArticleThe Pronoun Corrector
Want to be a super hero? Who doesn’t? There’s a very special kind of super hero when it comes to supporting a newly transitioning, or newly out, transgender person. Is it a bird? Is it a plane?? NO!...
View ArticleOn Being “Sure”
One of the first things that comes to most loved ones’ minds when told about someone’s transgender identity or plans to transition is “Are you sure??” In fact, this is often a question many of my...
View ArticleBut What If They Change Their Mind?!
Consider this post a close cousin to my last post, “On Being ‘Sure’”. Related to loved ones’ fears about a transgender person being “sure” about transitioning are the fears that they may one day regret...
View ArticleThe Catalyst: When Being Transgender is Brought Into Conscious Awareness
Say you’re visiting a foreign city and you’ve been sightseeing all day. So many things to do and see, you’ve been going nonstop. Suddenly you see a menu hanging outside the door of a restaurant with a...
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